ISSUES
Evidence-based Therapy for Perfectionism
How we see perfectionism.
Perfectionism is a pattern of high self-expectations and constant self-evaluation. While aiming for excellence can be motivating, perfectionism lends to stress, burnout, procrastination, and self-criticism. These once adaptive behaviours stem from early attachment experiences, where love, approval, or safety felt conditional. Over time, this makes it hard to accept mistakes or relax into your own worth.
Common Challenges Related to Perfectionism
Perfectionism can show up in many areas of life, including:
Work and productivity: Feeling pressure to perform flawlessly, delaying tasks, or overworking.
Relationships: People-pleasing, difficulty accepting help, or expecting unrealistic standards from others.
Self-worth: Linking value to accomplishments, appearance, or external validation.
Emotional impact: Anxiety, guilt, shame, low self-esteem, and burnout.
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy offers a safe space to explore perfectionistic patterns and build healthier ways of relating to yourself. With our attachment-informed approach, you can:
Understand how attachment experiences influence self-criticism and high expectations.
Develop self-compassion and reduce the inner pressure to be perfect.
Learn emotional regulation skills to manage stress and anxiety.
Set realistic goals and boundaries in work, relationships, and personal life.
Reconnect with joy, creativity, and authentic self-expression.
What You Can Expect From Therapy
Working with a therapist at Amanda Neves Therapy can help you:
Soften your inner critic and cultivate self-kindness.
Gain practical tools to manage perfectionistic habits and burnout.
Build confidence in making mistakes and embracing imperfection.
Strengthen relationships through healthier communication and expectations.
Feel more present, relaxed, and connected to yourself and others.
Our Approach
Our group practice specializes in supporting young professionals and couples dealing with anxiety, burnout, trauma, and relationship challenges. We integrate trauma-informed, attachment-based therapy with somatic, psychodynamic (AEDP, EMDR, IFS), and cognitive-based (CBT, DBT, ACT) approaches. This allows us to help you address perfectionism at both emotional and practical levels, fostering self-worth that is not dependent on performance.
Where We Offer Treatment
We provide in-person therapy in Toronto and secure online therapy across Ontario. Whether you are seeking support locally or from home, our therapists create a compassionate space to heal, release self-doubt, and find freedom from perfectionism.
Take the First Step
Perfectionism does not define you. You can teach your nervous system to navigate expectations with balance, self-compassion, and confidence. If you're ready to start, book a consult directly here, call us at 647-490-7985, complete our Meet Your Match form, or simply fill out the contact form below. Our clinic coordinator will be in touch to connect you with a therapist who’s the right fit based on your specific needs.
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